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10 Questions for Clarity

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  1. If nothing changed for 12 months, what would it cost me? (emotionally, financially, relationally)
  2. What am I most afraid divorce would take from me — specifically?
  3. What am I most afraid staying would take from me — specifically?
  4. What am I already doing to cope that I wouldn’t need in a healthier situation?
  5. What problem am I trying to solve by postponing the decision?
  6. What would a “structured stay” look like (conditions, timeline, boundaries) — not just waiting?
  7. If a friend described my situation exactly, what would I quietly hope they’d do?
  8. Which parts of my fear are about identity/reputation — not the relationship itself?
  9. What would I regret not trying (repair, boundaries, clarity conversations) before deciding?
  10. What decision would I make if I trusted I could handle the aftermath — either way?

Note: This is not legal or therapeutic advice. If you are in danger, please seek qualified help.

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