A good “sign” is not a single event. It’s a repeated pattern that doesn’t repair — despite honest effort.
High-signal patterns
- Chronic contempt: sarcasm, disgust, humiliation, or constant belittling.
- No repair: conflict happens, but there’s no real apology, change, or rebuilding — only repetition.
- Safety issues: fear, coercion, intimidation, stalking, or escalation.
- Reality split: you can’t talk about what’s true without it turning into denial or punishment.
If you’re unsure, the best next step is structure: define what would need to change for staying to make sense, set a timeline, and measure actual behavior.
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