You can’t decide well if everything is vague. Start by making the decision specific: what exactly is broken, and what exactly would need to change for staying to make sense?
Three clarifying axes
- Safety and respect: is there chronic contempt, coercion, or fear?
- Repair capacity: when conflict happens, can you both repair — consistently — or does it repeat?
- Cost of staying: what is the real cost to your mental health, parenting, and future if nothing changes?
If you want a structured set of prompts (not opinions), start with the free checklist. If you want the full framework, get the guide.
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